Sweet Will in mid-January.  Helplessly watching this baby and his sister get sick, staying in the PICU for three months and holding Will in my arms as he took his last breath will always define me.  But I refuse to let it reduce me into a negative, self-centered, hateful person.  Instead I will strive to make Will the best of me, letting his courage, strength, perseverance and joy define me as long as I live.

Taylor and I brought Caroline home around 1am on the morning of March 7 after Will had taken his final breath a few hours before.  We each had a car at the hospital, so we drove home separately.  It was dark and there were not many cars on the roads, everything was still and quite.  Caroline was sleeping in the back seat of my car and I remember looking in my rear view mirror and seeing Will’s seat.  How could he not be in there?  I was too exhausted and overwhelmed and sad to process it.  We walked into our house together for the first time in three months.  I would have given almost anything for Taylor to be back at the hospital with Will.  Being at home alone every night was challenging and lonely at times, but it was far superior than being home without Will.  I don’t remember much of the next few days.  I know we cried a lot.  We had to tell Joshua that his little brother was in heaven and we took a painful trip to the funeral home.  March 6 was the most painful day I have ever experienced, but on that day, I had Will.  He was in my arms all day and I kissed him and hugged him and held his little hand.  March 7 was our first day without him and we didn’t know what to do.  Then the days started to pass and I felt paralyzed, we needed to take just one step and didn’t know how.  Then Taylor had this idea, that we should take a family trip.  I actually had the same idea too but I was a little scared to suggest it.  Was that allowed?  It felt wrong to  just go somewhere and have fun.  All I wanted to do was hide and cry and be sad.  But our children had been through a lot the past three months and they are too young to really understand why we were so sad all the time.  We hadn't all spent the night under one roof for 90 days.  We needed to do something fun together.  We needed to force ourselves to take that one step into our new life without Will.  We needed to love our children and enjoy them.

So we went to Disney.  There, I said it.  I’m still a little hesitant to share that we took this trip and I don’t know if it's because I’m embarrassed or scared of being judged or fearful of being told what we should have done instead, but honestly it's probably a combination of all of those.  At the time I barely told anyone because I didn’t know if it was appropriate to do. We ran away to the happiest place on Earth during the worst days of our lives.  Maybe some people think we should have sat in our grief longer or it was too soon to go enjoy a place like Disney World and I kind of felt like that too.  But then I read "I Will Carry You" by Angie Smith and found out that they too went to Disney World after getting a terminal diagnosis for their baby in utero.  It kind of felt okay after I read her perspective.  Now I know that grief will always be here and that it’s okay that we decided to enjoy life with our children.  I can sit back into grief and pain and sadness whenever I have to or need to or want to.  But I have three little lives who depend on me.  It doesn’t mean I have to be happy all the time but losing Will made me want to enjoy them all the more and be more intentional with our time together.  So many things were hard about that trip.  Obviously, Will was supposed to be there and I had thought many times about what the twin's first trip to Disney would be like.  Now it was completely different and unexpected and everything seemed to make me think about him.  When we rode Small World I was brought back to the moment a few days before when he took his last breath in my arms and It's a Small World lullaby was playing in the background.  I saw twins, it seemed like I saw them everywhere, like it was "Twin Weekend" at Disney and I couldn't help but be heartbroken for my twinless twin.  It was hard but we had to take a first step somewhere and Disney seemed like a pretty good start.  So we rode the rides and ate the food and carried around the expensive balloons.  We smiled.  We were together and around tons of people who didn’t know who we were or what had just happened to us.  We came back and it felt like we were beginning a whole new life.  We stepped into the same house we have lived in for four years but it seemed brand new.  Before it was a house that we lived in as a family of six.  The babies had a crib in our room and there were two rock-n-plays in the family room.  Our table has six chairs and I knew the one where Will would have sat one day.  What I didn’t realize when we walked back into our house that day was that we didn’t just lose an infant, but we lost a toddler and a kindergartener and a child and a teenager and an adult.  We lost our baby at every stage and this house that we were coming home to held not only the memories but also all the future moments that we would never experience with Will.  It will now hold completely new memories that I never thought I would make, because all the things I imagined happening in this home included him. 

One week after Will’s passing we were sitting on the floor of our living room with my parents.  We had returned from Disney, we had taken that one step but now what?  What about all the other steps, how are we supposed to do those?  That’s when the idea for The Will King Foundation was born.  We were discussing how to best honor Will, should we memorialize him somewhere with a statue or a special donation.  We had decided not to hold a funeral service but there were so many people who were still asking how they could support us.  How were we supposed to answer?  I quietly listened, unable to hold back tears as we discussed how to honor the life of my baby who was supposed to be in my arms, not a little clay jar.  He was never supposed to get sick or go to the hospital or die.  We weren’t supposed to be making decisions about how to honor his life.  He was supposed to be making those decisions with his siblings about us years from now.  Here is how my Dad recounts that night:

“A couple of nights after Will’s passing, Candy (my wife) and I were visiting with Courtney and Taylor in their home after the children were asleep.  Exhausted and numb, we sat on the floor and talked about the experience, our blessings and about getting life back to normal.  Overall, we talked about God’s Will and asked some questions: “What was God’s purpose for Will?  Why did God put Will here for just 96 days and then take him?  What is our responsibility to fulfill that purpose?” 

The next morning Courtney sent me a message.  In short, her heart was telling her that there are other newborns that have medical needs requiring specialty care like Will and Caroline had received but they never get it because their families don’t have the resources.  I said to Courtney: “That’s the purpose.  That’s God’s will.  We are supposed to use Will’s experience to make a difference.”

Within minutes Courtney was on the phone to Dr. Ettedgui, the pediatric cardiologist that took care of both Will and Caroline.  Courtney and Taylor had developed great respect for Dr. Ettedgui and knew that he had a deep passion for caring for children.  Courtney told Dr. Ettedgui about Will’s purpose and he told her that he had identified a child in need of heart surgery.  He could do the surgery, together with the charitable support of Wolfson and UF Health, if the money could be raised to fly the baby and her mother to Jacksonville and provide a place to live while they were here.  With that, the purpose was clarified, The Will King Foundation was established, the $’s raised and the successful surgery is now complete.”

That baby was Avery.  Now, six months later, we have been able to sponsor three children who have all received successful medical treatment.  We have spent time with their families and prayed for them.  They always say how grateful they are and how much we have done for them.  It is humbling and a blessing, but they are wrong.  We have gained much more than we have given.  Getting to be a small part of these families’ journey is a true gift.  They are helping us.  They are helping us have a purpose to keep on living despite wanting to just give up.  They are helping us honor our precious son and keep his legacy alive.  They are helping us shape our children into people who love and care for others.  They are helping us bring the Gospel to the nations.  They are helping us grieve in a productive way by giving back to others instead of turing into ourselves.  They are helping us by being our friend, by telling us how sorry they are that we lost Will while they themselves are enduring one of the greatest trials any parents can ever walk through.  It never feels quite right to say how much I enjoy meeting these families and working to share The Will King Foundation.  It wouldn't exist, after all, if Will was still here.  But I am learning that you can grieve and enjoy life at the same time.  You can suffer loss and experience unimaginable heartache but still go to Disney World and smile with your children.  It’s okay to be sad but also driven to making a difference.  It’s okay to use heartbreak to make something good.  It’s okay to let sorrow and joy intermingle.  There is no right or wrong way to grieve or experience loss or hardship or trauma.  There is no too soon or too long or too fast or too slow.  There is no getting over it or moving on or forgetting it ever happened.  There is just trying.  Trying to enjoy, trying to bring love and light to this world that so often brings us pain and sorrow.  I’m learning that there is no rulebook or guide or specific way to do this.  It’s all okay.

Multiple times a day I think about what a miracle Caroline is.  I believe that all babies are miracles, but I personally witnessed a baby, my baby, live when, according to science, she really shouldn’t have.  Her numbers from her blood work were always worse than Will’s, she had a pulmonary hemorrhage that could have very easily taken her life and she had the same exact diagnosis as Will.  She contracted the same virus that took him from us.  My daughter, Caroline, is a miracle.

Coming home from the hospital was a challenge and very scary for me.  I have described before how fearful I was to bring her home by myself (click here to read more).  During her first nine weeks at  home, Will was still at the hospital and Taylor and I were barely at home together during the day and never at night.  She was tiny and fragile and the next few months were filled with doctor’s appointments and visits to specialists.  I didn’t realize that after you leave the PICU you don’t actually just get a free pass home.  You spend months, maybe even years, following up.  I don’t want that to sound negative because I am so thankful that we have an amazing pediatrician who is cautious and would rather send us all over the city getting check ups rather than wait for a problem to arise.  An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.  I just wasn’t expecting it.  Here is a little bit of what Caroline has been up to for the past eight months, celebrating all the progress she has made and a look into her future.

Caroline in the PICU, only a few weeks old, and Caroline now, nine months old.

I sometimes forget that Caroline is a little bit behind because she is so active, alert and responsive.  Cognitively, she seems to be like any normally developing baby and I forget that her traumatic start to life has put her a bit behind physically.  Just for reference, here are some photos of her brother and sister, both at nine months old.  My son, who has always been in a lower percentile, was seventeen pounds at nine months.  He was crawling well and pulling himself up to stand.  Caroline's older sister is usually right in the middle of the growth chart, usually the 40-60%.  At nine months she was eighteen pounds and standing, crawling and easily pulling herself up and going back and forth from sitting to crawling.  Caroline sitting up well and can stand with help.  She is working to reach her other milestones in therapy.

One of Caroline's Physical Therapy sessions at eight months old.

The last video we took of Will, sleeping peacefully, on February 27, 2018.

Will was pretty stable the last few weeks of February.  The doctors were making small tweaks to his medications, dialysis and ventilator but there were no big changes or surprises.  A lot of time was spent talking about Will’s future and how we were going to move forward.  The nephrologist thought that Will’s kidneys were most likely not going to start functioning, which seemed to be the biggest issue.  He was probably going to need a kidney transplant, but he couldn’t be considered until he was about 22 pounds, at least a year.  Maybe he would be in the PICU for that amount of time, waiting until he could be transferred and evaluated for a transplant.  Maybe he would be able to come home and grow here, we didn’t know.  The other concern was his heart.  It was extremely weak in December, then we saw a big improvement as we entered the new year.  After a few weeks his heart function got worse again, but still not as bad as it was at first.  It seemed to be largely related to his fluid balance, but there was still the question of how much it would or could improve and if a heart transplant was potentially in his future as well.  All of this talk about transplants and Will's future was full of so many unknowns not just for us but the doctors too.  They didn’t know if he would even qualify based on many factors, mostly his brain bleed and the poor function off multiple organs.  Plus he was a baby, which seemed to complicate everything even more.  If he did qualify, we didn’t know if one of us would be a match for kidney donation and we didn’t even want to think about the details of him getting a heart.  This path of transplants was one very real but uncertain direction for Will’s future.  It seemed very overwhelming to me, but not unreachable.  I would have done anything and everything to get Will whatever he needed to live.  Most of the time I was just happy that they were talking in terms of the future and saying phrases like "at home nurse" and "in a few years..."

Another, more positive and desirable path, was that Will’s kidneys would start working on their own.  We were told that this was most likely not going to happen, that it would be a miracle.   We had just seen miracle after miracle as Will continued to get better and Caroline came home, we have a big God and believed that He could do another miracle for Will.   It seemed like if his kidneys would function on their own, even if just one could work enough to do it’s job, then the other things might fall into place.  His heart might get stronger if it wasn’t fighting fluid overload and eventually his lungs could develop enough to remove the trach so he could breath on his own.  Sometimes thinking about the best case scenario is the only thing that kept me going.  I am a natural planner, I'm optimistic but realistic as well, and I imagined every possible situation and made it work in my mind.  We prayed, we hoped and we wondered but we never expected an answer.  We knew that Will would take the path God had laid out for him, regardless of how much I fought to find a solution. 

At the end of February I met with all of Will’s doctors, specialists and some nurses in charge of his care.  We were discussing all these possible options and how to help Will keep getting better and grow while we waited to see what was going to happen.  Misty came to the meeting.  I have written about some of Will’s nurses who mean so much to us, but if you have been reading my posts you know that Misty is extremely special.  I don’t know how to express what she means to us because there are no words that describe it.  Misty was wonderful.  She loved Will and she was there for me, she was there for all of us.  She didn’t just listen to my concerns, answer my questions and chat about ordinary things to help distract me from the horrific reality going on around me - she did all those things - but she was really there.  Completely present.  When she was Will’s nurse we knew he was going to be taken care of above and beyond the standard of what was expected from any nurse.  She not only made sure he was clean and comfortable, but she made sure his room felt calm and organized and fun.  She made him CD’s with Disney lullabies and played movies for him.  She dressed him and played with him and talked to him.  Her job description included giving him medicine, monitoring his vitals and taking care of his physical needs .  She did SO much more.  She really cared.  She didn’t have to come to this meeting, she came for Will, and she took notes and shared her concerns.  She knew him better than any doctor.  She spent 12-hour shift after 12-hour shift taking care of Will.  After all the specialist talked and shared their ideas, concerns and plans, Misty interjected and I was relieved.  At this point I was on the verge of a complete meltdown and I couldn’t say anything.  I was just trying to get through the meeting so I could go into the bathroom and cry by myself.  She spoke as a medical professional but she also was my voice, speaking every concern I wanted to bring up but couldn’t.  She knew that Will was not himself.  Over the past few days he had changed.  He was swollen, uncomfortable, inconsolable at times.  It was a different type of agitation.  Not the kind of uncomfortable that was solved by a diaper change or switching positions.  Will was a calm baby by nature, he was very low maintenance in the sense that he tolerated a lot, a lot more than can be expected of any human.  The past few days it seemed like everything made him upset and he just couldn’t get settled down or comfortable.  He hadn’t slept and his alert, kind little eyes seemed to be glazed over.  Misty knew it and made sure everyone else knew too - something is wrong and we need to figure out what it is.  

On March 2, they started the process of exploring every possible reason as to why Will could be declining.  More blood tests, samples taken and tests performed.  Nothing came back that indicated a change.  No positive cultures, no infection, no reason for this sudden decline.  Theories were flying around everywhere but nothing pointed specifically to why he was suddenly deteriorating.  One week ago he was making such good progress.  One week ago I was giving him a few drops of milk from a bottle.  One doctor told us he would never drink from a bottle and he did, eagerly.  He was happy and sweet and we thought he was getting better.  We were planning for his future.  Now all of the sudden he was getting worse, they were adding support - more oxygen, epinephrine and norepinephrine to help his heart and re-starting medications that he hadn’t been needing since December.  

On March 3 I saw a twitch.  No one thought it was a seizure.  Doctors, nurses and the physician’s assistant all saw the twitching and they seemed to be confused by it and said maybe it had to do with electrolyte imbalance but it didn’t look like any typical seizure.  They put an EEG on just to make sure.  Not long after we discovered that it was a seizure, but not just a seizure.  Will’s brain was having multiple seizures, sometimes at the same time, coming from areas all over his brain.  I got the strong sense that it was something none of the doctors had really seen before or at least not frequently.  He got a large dose of anti-seizure medication but that didn’t stop them.  They added a drip of a second anti-seizure medication and were still having a hard time squelching them out.  I remember standing at the EEG screen with the neurologist and he was showing me spikes where Will’s brain was trying to have a seizure.  They were unstoppable and consuming every part of his brain.  He was in a comatose state, sedated by multiple potent anti-seizure medications that weren’t doing their job.  In my mind it felt like his brain’s way of shutting down, like it was misfiring from every location because his body was trying to die and we weren’t “letting” him.

On March 4, the doctors started increasing the dose of epinephrine.  It was referred to as a “rescue medication” because without it Will’s heart was not strong enough to pump blood throughout his body on it’s own.  We changed his code, Do Not Resuscitate.  There was no doubt that he was getting weaker by the hour and there was still no other explanation - all cultures, all tests continued to come back negative.  The seizures were still happening, even with all the anti-seizure medications flooding his little body.  He was sedated so there were no more signs of visual seizures but he was still on the EEG so they knew that he was still having them.  He was just laying there peacefully, the ventilator doing most of his breathing and the epinephrine helping his heart beat.  That night I was at Will’s bedside with the PA.  He was one of the people who I had asked a billion questions to and knew Will very well.  After I asked everything I could think of, I paused and through choked back tears I said, “This is a really hard question to ask, but do you think Will is trying to die and we won’t let him.”  I think the question may have shocked him a little bit, but he kind of shrugged it off, “I don’t know, maybe” and left the room. 

On March 5 they added a third anti-seizure medication which basically put Will into a coma.  I knew what was happening, I think everyone else did too, but no one really wanted to say it this time.  In December it seemed like almost every doctor that discussed Will’s prognosis with us thought the best choice was to remove his support and hold him until he passed.  In December there was so much confidence that he really had no chance but he made it through.  He survived against every odd thrown against him.  Now there was a sense that everyone knew that he was deteriorating quickly but no one really wanted to say it.  I think it’s because no one wanted to admit it was reality.  Everyone had grown so attached to him.  In December he was just a patient, “Baby A.”  Now he was Will.  He had an identity and a personality and every doctor and nurse there had memories and experiences with him.  I could tell in their demeanor and in their voices that they knew there was no coming back from this.  Every organ system was simultaneously shutting down despite our best efforts to help him.  

When I walked into his room on the morning of March 6, it was like he was already gone.  I was hit with overwhelming clarity and looking back I think it was God’s Spirit giving me peace that Will was already with him.  Now it was my turn to fully hand him over.  Almost like I was selfishly holding his one little hand and I needed to let go so that Will could go with Jesus and fully be healed.  I wanted to hold on to him so badly.  He was mine and I wanted him.  I still do.  I didn’t know how this could be happening, he was doing so much better, he was so sweet and just a perfect little boy.  I didn’t want it to be true but for Will’s sake, I had to be willing to let go.  I talked to everyone, waiting for someone to tell me that he could recover.  I sought out every optimistic doctor I knew but never found the hope I was looking for.  God made him and he belonged to God but God gave him to me, he was mine.  Nothing about it seemed fair or right.  How could I just let him continue to sit up here hooked up to all those machines that were making his body work.  How could I let him endure this suffering just because I couldn’t say good bye.  I was determined to just let him ride it out, maybe he could overcome it just like he had a few months before.  Maybe it was just a setback.  I kept waiting for someone to confirm it and give me permission to hold on.  But then I heard something that scared me.  One of Will’s nurses said that we could just keep him up here like this forever.  Forever.  So he just lives here, in a coma, with a machine making him breath and medication making his heart beat and dialysis doing all the work of his kidneys and his brain seizing almost continually.  We made the most difficult decision to stop rescuing Will.  This is not a life.  

“This is not a life.”  These are the words that one of Will’s doctors said to me that afternoon when he came in to say goodbye.  That afternoon we had a stream of people - doctors, nurses, therapists - come in to say goodbye to Will.  There were a lot of tears, many thoughtful and heartfelt words but aside from Will’s nurse, Misty, this doctor gave the most genuine and sincere goodbye of them all.  He came in already in tears.  Just that image of seeing an ICU doctor in tears is something I thought I would never experience.  They all seem so tough and calloused and withdrawn.  They have to be.  He sat down across from me, my precious baby boy dying in my arms, and said how his prayers have changed, how this is not a life for any child.  He kissed my boy, looked me in the eye and squeezed my mom’s hand.  It was heartfelt and genuine, a moment I will remember forever.  Taylor and I spent that day holding our baby for the last time.  Caroline, his twin sister, was with him all day, exactly as she should be.  He passed away in my arms around 9pm.  "It's a Small World" lullaby was softly playing in the background and I felt his body let out it's last breath here on Earth.  I asked them to turn the monitors away and I didn't know if I would know the moment when he took his last breath.  I did and it's a moment that will haunt me forever.  We dressed him, wrapped him in a blanket, laid him in a little woven basket and said an impossible goodbye.  We will never be the same again.

Taylor and Will on March 6.

My last picture of Will, taken on March 6, 2018.

Will's Sisters

Look at that preciousness - she is saying "Love you, Cay Cay."

Some of the few pictures I have of my two boys together.

There are times when I know God is speaking to me.  If you aren’t a believer in Christ, I know the next paragraph, actually probably this entire blog post, will make me sound like a either total nut job or​ one of those judgmental religious people who hold up a sign outside the Jags game that says “You’re going to Hell” and maybe even yelling at you through a bullhorn.  That’s okay, I make a conscious effort to be as non-judgmental and non-religious as I can, but I think being a Christian is supposed to make me look different and that might make others uncomfortable or skeptical.  Just try to stick with me.  Believers, you know that undeniable voice of the Holy Spirit?  I heard it on Sunday.  It might be cliche but I heard it through our Pastor during church, that nudging on my heart telling me that God had something in store, something big, something important, something that would honor and glorify Him.  The passage was Romans 15:8-33 (listen to the entire sermon here).  Paul urging the Jews and Gentiles in Rome to live a life poured out for the Gospel of Christ.  A life well-lived is not measured by status or accumulation of things or worldly achievements.  The only thing we can take with us to heaven is people, not our stuff or status, so we ought to be living on mission every day to share God's message of salvation.  Such perspective.  As I’m hearing this I am overcome with gratitude that God has given us an outlet, a platform, to carry out this mission through Will.  I’ve always known it and recognized it as a gift but it was just crystal clear as I listened to our Pastor unpack this passage.  The Will King Foundation is not an experiment or a side project, it an avenue for us to glorify God by not just helping others receive life-saving medical treatment but most importantly by sharing with them the life saving news of the Gospel that could change their eternal trajectory.  

When Taylor and I were in college we wanted to be missionaries.  Reach the nations, Africa specifically.  We would gather in prayer for unreached people groups and shared our desire to bring the Gospel to people who have never heard it.  I remember reading “Five Who Changed the World” by Daniel L. Akin, a book that shares biographies of five missionaries who changed the world through their obedience to the Great Commission (Matthew 28:19-20 which tells believers to go and make disciples of all nations).  I was audacious enough to think that God could use me to be one of those world changers.  I say audacious because I was immature and self-centered and thought that I had something to offer.  That God would use me because I was smart or well-educated or could quote a bunch of scripture.  My intentions were right, but my heart was in the wrong place.  I was pouring my life into achievements for God, looking like a “good christian” and impressing others with my passion for missions when really I was just like the Pharisees.  Like a white washed tomb (Matthew 23:27), I looked good on the outside but I was too loud, too wrapped up in myself to really listen to the Spirit of God inside me.  

This is one of the last videos I have of Will, taken on February 27.  I love how he is peacefully dreaming and I loved when he did that nursing motion with his lips.  The sound he makes when he is breathing is normal because of the trach, his breathing is not labored, it's just how he sounded based on his position or if there was a small leak around the trach.  We liked to use his stuffed animals to position his arms and legs and snuggle up next to him so he felt comfortable and secure and the lullabies playing are from his nurse, Misty.  He is swollen because his kidneys were still not functioning and the dialysis was not working as well as it had been to remove excess fluid. This was one of the last times I remember him sleeping peacefully before he began to decline.  When I watch videos of him sleeping I just can't help but remember how incredibly sweet he was and wish so badly that I could peak in at him sleeping in his crib tonight.

I didn't really expect to experience true happiness, especially not this soon after Will's passing.  Part of me even felt guilty the first time I was happy because what kind of mother could be happy when one of her children was gone?  However this summer brought a lot of unexpected joy, which, obviously, is good, as I played with my children and watched them create memories together.  That's not to say there hasn't been a lot of sadness and a lot of tears and a lot of missing Will, but there has been a lot of happiness, a lot of contentment and a lot of joy as well.

Building Will's legacy through this foundation has been filled with a lot of joy. After experiencing the pain, loss and complete devastation of Will's passing, this has been a light. It has been a blessing to see our children meet children from other parts of the world, learn about their culture and play with them. Showing compassion to the sick, helping the brokenhearted, praying for the weak - all things Jesus calls us to do - all a blessing and joy to do. Honestly, I guess selfishly, I would give it all away if I could have Will back. I sometimes feel a big mix of emotions, I love what has been created in Will's memory but we wouldn't be doing this if Will was still here. The foundation wouldn't exist, we wouldn't have met these children and their families but we would have our little boy. If it were up to me, I would choose to have Will back over and over again. Obviously, it's not a choice, but what is a choice is what we do in response to losing Will and I love how he is being remembered, the impact he is making. Those days and weeks after he passed were a blur, we didn't know what to do or say or how to act but I am glad God put this on our hearts. It's meaningful and each one of these families is special to us. I will always make sure he is remembered and I am determined to leave a legacy for him. A legacy that glorifies God and helps others.

My family got to spend some time with Paula and her parents this weekend and it was wonderful. My husband had met them when Paula was still in the hospital but my children and I hadn't yet. Last week Paula was discharged from the hospital after her heart procedures and she is staying in Jacksonville for a few more weeks for monitoring. When they walked outside Paula was asleep in her mother's arms and I noticed her black t-shirt, the Will King Foundation t-shirt that was in the basket Taylor took to her.  I was filled with pride when I saw her in that shirt, his name right on the front, the one who was bringing so much joy, the one who was helping another sick child, the one who was bringing together our families who would have otherwise never met. It's all Will. He is the light. It's like when you light a match, the small flame quickly turns into a big light, one that can light up a whole birthday cake, one that can make a candle burn bright in a dark room, one that can set off a firework that lights up the sky. Will is the small flame on the end of the match, everything that happens through his foundation - every family helped, every heart changed, every bond made - it all started with him. He is the spark. It makes me so proud of my sweet little guy, there was something so special about him that he inspired all this.

Paula and her mother speak Spanish and thankfully her dad speaks English because we could barely remember any Spanish from our high school days! I just can't imagine being Paula's mom. It's the hardest thing in the world to live in the hospital with your child. Your baby is sick, you are waiting while they get operated on and listening to doctors and watching monitors. I was overwhelmed by it all but then to be in a totally different country and not be able to communicate well with your child's doctors and nurses has to take the feeling of being overwhelmed up a few notches. And then sweet Paula. I kept thinking about Will's big sister Emma Grace because she is two just like Paula. I thought about how scared she would be in another country, in a hospital and going through all that Paula went through. I thought about how confused she would be if doctors and nurses were speaking to her in another language. I thought about trying to keep her quiet and calm in a hospital bed while she recovered. I thought about not being able to take her outside and seeing her hooked up to monitors and medications and machines.  All the unknowns and new people and restrictions. She had unbelievable strength and courage wrapped up in such a little person.

We started walking to a nearby playground, but with dark clouds looming in the sky we decided to stay closer and stopped at a little park on the river. Will's big brother brought a toy piano for Paula to play with. He got it for his first birthday and it has been a favorite of his and his sister. He brought it because there is a Spanish setting and when I told him that Paula spoke Spanish he thought she might like it. This is the type of thoughtfulness and compassion I am thankful to see developing in my children. He set the piano up on a park bench and Paula loved it. Her dad told us that she loves music and animals. She was so smart too. She could say all the colors and numbers on the piano and her and Emma Grace even had a little dance party. The children played a little bit before we ran back in the rain where they spent some more time playing under the covered parking area. It was pretty amazing that they had the one piano and some rocks that lined the sidewalk and were able to play happily with each other. I kept thinking about how we have so much stuff and we really just need each other, it brings the most contentment and all the other stuff seems to get in the way.

We really enjoyed learning about Paula and her family - what her life is like in Venezuela and how her medical needs have affected her and her family. She is a bright, sweet and very loved little girl. Although I wasn't able to directly communicate with her mom very much, I could just feel how much she loved Paula, her dad too. She was so playful with our children as well, she played with Emma Grace and tickled Caroline. It was really sweet and amazing to connect with someone that you can barely talk to. Paula has one more surgery in her future, her dad said probably as a teenager, but otherwise should return to Venezuela in a few weeks where she is expected to grow stronger and be healthy. I am honored that she is included in Will's legacy, grateful that we got to spend time with her family and thankful that she is doing well. Sweet baby Will, this is all because of you, you are an amazing little guy and God is being glorified through you here on Earth.